READ: Philippians 4:9 Psalm 127:3

THINK: I remember talking to a friend with teenagers about my young kids, ages 7 and 4, and their response to my question “Does it get any better?” was surprising. They told me no, it doesn’t. Most people say, "oh yes, it will get better as they grow older" but I found this answer my friend gave me frank and honest. It may not get better, but it will certainly be  different. Following the graph that Pastor Ben put up for us helps to see our role clearly as parents and 'sculptors' of their life.

I have seen firsthand what it’s like when a parent tries to be a friend initially and then ends up regretting that they gave their child so much privilege up front. It’s like building a house with a weak foundation, it will end up haunting you forever. There is a reason we should go from caregiver to ruler to coach and then friend as it will make our job so much easier and build that solid foundation that our kids need and really want.

Being a parent educator has helped me to see the wisdom of learning and applying what I know but the real test has been being a real live parent and being willing to be teachable as well as being a teacher. Discipline and guidance are key areas of parenting and we can learn so much from our own heavenly daddy, God, and his wisdom in the scripture. Many times lessons were taught in very clear ways with just the right amount of patience. In my opinion, the Bible is one of the best written parenting guides around, certainly a best seller!

Take for example the Old Testament and the Book of Isaiah, “…Each generation tells of your faithfulness to the next.” Isaiah 39:19 (NLT) God speaks through his prophet about teaching and leading our children and the consequences of our teaching. We have such a huge responsibility to our children to help them learn good PR as Ben taught us- privilege and responsibility. In Proverbs it tells us, “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6 (TNIV). This is so key to great and effective parenting and will make your life so much more pleasant while you go through the journey of parenting.

I especially like point #2 in the notes of what kids need, your PRESENCE. Many kids spell LOVE= TIME and that is how they will measure your commitment to them. I’ll never forget a conversation I overheard (yes, I do eavesdrop) at a health club from two teenage boys about their relationship with their dads. I was sad to hear one boy say that his dad spent little or no time with him but instead gave him “things.” This man was a lawyer who worked many hours providing for his family but forgot the #1 priority of family time. That young boy was crying out for the LOVE/TIME that he needed. I make sure in my life that my priorities are in line with God’s and give myself to Him and my family. I am shown unconditional love by God and his expectation is that I pass it along. My spiritual guidance is so important, that I always listen and remain teachable.

DO: Read through the message notes from the weekend, re read the scripture references and go to the Bible (read it!) to find out how to be the best parent. Seek advice when needed, talk things over with a good and trusted friend. Sometimes all is takes is just talking it out and the answers will come. Be open to being teachable and pat yourself on the back for a job well done once in awhile. Your kids deserve a strong parent and will thank you years later for the way you lead them.

PRAY: God, help me to become the parent you desire for me to be. Help me to shine your light and be your salt as I follow the example You set for me as a father... I thank you God for your continued care and leading of me as your child. Help me to grow in your love today and every day. In Jesus' Name, Amen.